Wednesday, July 2, 2008

Tap With Pat

Thu, February 2, 2006 - 6:02 AM

I love my exercise teacher, Cinder. She makes me happy when we sing and dance to "I Will Survive" or "Never say Goodbye", I have been dancing with her for 15 years.

Her Mom Pat, died last week and it was a death in our community. Pat loved her life, teaching seniors to tap dance and remodeling her daughter's house so it would be lovely after her death. No "personal growth" classes there, just a commitment to live life to the fullest. Cinder and Pat had the most loving relationship I have seen a Mother and daughter have. Cinder made each moment of these last 4 months everything she could and they did everything Pat wanted, Yosemite, the DeYoung, the Russian River. She slept with Pat the last few weeks so someone would be there when Pat awakened. Her Mother died and Cinder knows she did everything she could. No REGRETS!

Yesterday Cinder included me in a Tea that had been planned before her Mom's death for the senior tappers and they all talked about how much fun it had been to be on TV and tap across the Golden Gate Bridge with Pat, yes "Tap with Pat". And how it was all Pat that made it happen. They appreciated that she cared about whether they tapped their right foot in unison with the rest of the class. She was tough and she made a difference in their lives. She had brought fame and fun to these little ladies living on social security, and taking 2 buses from Polk and Broadway to Bernal Heights to take her free class. I went on Muni metro with them, these tiny chinese ladies so full of vigor.

I met these ladies (and one man) when I went their class to take their photos so I could make a t-shirt transfer for them, then I went back the next week to put the transfers on their shirts, taking my friend Chris, who fell in love with tap dance (after living with the effects of polio as a child) and is now tapping with the seniors. She is a Burner and my long time friend and helped them with their dance outfits, sequins and all. So here is to Pat's passing, and kudos to my beloved Cinder who has made her Mother's death a lovely graceful moment in their lives.

Thu, February 2, 2006 - 9:22 AM
that is so beautiful, thank you for sharing such a lovely story!

1 comment:

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